This very reason is one of the big reasons my husband and I work so well together. People have commented that we are precise foils for each other. I have a tendency to speak my mind and take immediate action, be a fixer (in the best way possible when people need a problem solved they come to me), but also take the non-essentials and think things critically to death. My husband is slow to speak but when he does it's because it really needs to be stated. He is a good listener and people are drawn to him even when they don't know him well. It's like the Holy Spirit tells them they are safe to be vulnerable with him. He also has a tendency to not be able to make a final decision even when it doesn't matter what he decides. On the profound questions, I will talk it out to myself and others to the point of annoyance while my husband would be asked his opinion and it takes a minimum of 24 hours of silence on the topic for his brain/Holy Spirit to make a decision. I can't talk to him about it after the initial discussion. I have to wait for him to come to me. The biggest decisions I had to wait in silence for 2 weeks before he returned with a verdict. It drives me insane! But he always comes back with the right answer. Long story short. When we need to move fast on a decision he trusts me to know what to do. When we need to absolutely make the correct decision, I trust him that in what appears to be completely ignoring the situation he is really subconsciously working it out and is also in active silent prayer throughout the day and night. He just needs me to be quiet and let him take the responsibility. I push him to move when he can't make a decision and he grabs on to me to slow down when I move too fast. The result is 100% trust in each other's strengths, confidence we have acted in line in a way reflecting God's will, and knowing that when it appears it didn't go as we had planned it still went along with God's plan and it will result in what is best for us even if we don't know why.
Great story and insight. I am definitely guilty of this, and looking forward to hearing more so I can fine tune my discernment ✨
What a great analogy, Josh. Thank you so much!
This very reason is one of the big reasons my husband and I work so well together. People have commented that we are precise foils for each other. I have a tendency to speak my mind and take immediate action, be a fixer (in the best way possible when people need a problem solved they come to me), but also take the non-essentials and think things critically to death. My husband is slow to speak but when he does it's because it really needs to be stated. He is a good listener and people are drawn to him even when they don't know him well. It's like the Holy Spirit tells them they are safe to be vulnerable with him. He also has a tendency to not be able to make a final decision even when it doesn't matter what he decides. On the profound questions, I will talk it out to myself and others to the point of annoyance while my husband would be asked his opinion and it takes a minimum of 24 hours of silence on the topic for his brain/Holy Spirit to make a decision. I can't talk to him about it after the initial discussion. I have to wait for him to come to me. The biggest decisions I had to wait in silence for 2 weeks before he returned with a verdict. It drives me insane! But he always comes back with the right answer. Long story short. When we need to move fast on a decision he trusts me to know what to do. When we need to absolutely make the correct decision, I trust him that in what appears to be completely ignoring the situation he is really subconsciously working it out and is also in active silent prayer throughout the day and night. He just needs me to be quiet and let him take the responsibility. I push him to move when he can't make a decision and he grabs on to me to slow down when I move too fast. The result is 100% trust in each other's strengths, confidence we have acted in line in a way reflecting God's will, and knowing that when it appears it didn't go as we had planned it still went along with God's plan and it will result in what is best for us even if we don't know why.
That is fantastic. Thank you for sharing.